“You are unique. Each of us came in with a purpose that is only ours to fulfill.”
Kelsey J. Patel – Entrepreneur, Leading Wellness Expert & Founder of Magik Vibes; Alleviating her pain to help others; Spiritual and personal growth in business; Practicing worthiness.
Segment 1: (Length :04:00) – General Updates; Introduction to Kelsey J. Patel and her journey as an entrepreneur; Alleviating her own pain; Starting her first business.
Kelsey’s finer points:
“You want to keep going. It’s like you want to keep grinding and keep creating. I feel like that’s a part of the blessing and the curse when you are on these paths is it’s like you do want to keep saying what else, what else, what else? In the best way.”
“I would just say to anybody, it’s like I never realized that I was in my state of overwhelm when I was in it. It took me like years after of going through some of these practices to see how unbalanced and how anxious and how much pain I was actually in.”
I really want everybody to know what that is so that they can sit with themselves whenever they're listening and actually write out like where they are with everything to get a real, honest view of their life. It's so important.
“My journey, I grew up in North Dakota. I lived in a lot of different places between college and kind of my first few years of starting my professional life.”
“I went to school in Boston. Every summer I was living some place different just to check out the world. I ended up working in the United States Senate for about four and a half years in Washington DC.”
“I had a ton of excitement and joy and it was an amazing job. I was also stressed and going from that phase of life where you’re kind of with friends and you have your own free schedule to then sitting at a desk and being in an office, which is a typical transition, but I started to experience a lot of back pain, like to the point where I was taking Advil every day like every four hours, as much as you could. Then I would drink wine at night to try to relax my body.”
Looking back now, I can see that there was so much stress and anxiety because simultaneously, my mom was going through depression and going kind of in and out of the psych ward trying to get the right help. That was stressful, man. I never knew that emotions led to physical stress in the body. I just never had a clue that that could happen.
“Yeah, I kind of knew I needed to make a big life change and I moved out to California. I got a job with the big Fortune 500 company. I was their Director of Communications. I was doing like crisis PR and traveling every single week on a plane. I gained weight. My back pain was still getting the best of me.”
“Life just wasn’t balanced. I kept grinding and pushing and pushing and thinking it was normal to live life that way. That was when I found Reiki. I would say I came crawling to Reiki practices only because my pain was so bad that if you had told me to eat like shit I would have, if I thought my back could feel better.”
“I don’t know if you guys have had, you know, what your physical stuff has been, but when you’re in physical pain, man, like that takes over every aspect of your life, or at least it did for me.”
“I had all these moments where I was like, “I got to find something else.” At that time I found Pure Barre. I started taking Pure Barre classes. I felt really good in my body, because I had been a dancer my whole life growing up and even into my DC days.”
It felt really good in my body. My body started to feel strong again. I became an instructor while I was still working. Then, suddenly, my friend had said, 'Do you want to open up a business?'
“I didn’t come from a family of entrepreneurs. My dad sort of had a private practice, but I would say, in North Dakota, it was very much like, “Make sure you have a retirement account. Make sure you have a savings account. Make sure you have your health care.” That kind of like, “Fuck it, let’s see what happens, go after your dream,” mentality of entrepreneurship, I didn’t grow with that.”
“I was terrified to open up a small business. My friend really wanted to do it. At the time, my husband and I weren’t married yet, but he really encouraged me to do it. I did. We opened up Pure Barre in Beverly Hills.”
My back pain, I thought would get better. It go so much worse being an owner of a brick and mortar and having bills and having staff and having clients. Just, I mean, having a physical business is so ... I found it's so different and has so many different challenges than having an online business or perhaps a behind the computer business.
“I met this woman who did Reiki. I started to go see her once a week. I had no idea what she was doing when she did the Reiki. I just knew I would feel better when I left. Then, from there, I started to learn Reiki.”
“I never got into it, which is, I think you guys will appreciate how the path and the journey unfolds. I never got into it, because I wanted to heal anybody. I was not in business of wanting to do that. I cared more that it was helping my back pain and I could perhaps alleviate some of the pain I had.”
“That was how the journey began. Just learning it from myself and then suddenly, it was like I started doing Reiki on friends. Then friends became friends of friends. Then I opened up a small healing center. It just all sort of has been this yarn that keeps pulling to these different things.”
Segment 2: (Length :08:00) – Talking with Kelsey J. Patel; Understanding your own growth in business & creativity; Removing anxiety; Always learning; You have the answers inside when you listen.
Kelsey’s finer points:
“I will tell you exactly what I think it is, is I not only think I feel it on a visceral level because I watched myself go through it. Everyone is seeking validation from everything and anyone else outside of themselves, meaning that is why there is this external desire to be connected to everything outside of me, everyone outside of me, every event outside of me.”
“I’m not saying that we don’t get incredibly fulfilled and feel wonderful when we’re with our community and our tribe and going out to events and engaging in life. Of course, that’s part of human connection.”
“What I see where the tipping point is is when people are escaping themselves and running almost. They keep going outside of themselves for that feeling, which only comes from the inside to begin with, but they don’t know that. They go outside of themselves to find and feel their value.”
Getting comfortable in your own skin and acknowledging that light and the fierceness that we have inside, takes a certain calibration.
“It’s more about recognizing from the inside out and calibrating your energy and calibrating your belief systems to slowly start to break away from those old patterns and those old naysayers that I’ll be honest with you, 95% of us, don’t even recognize are happening day in and day out inside of our mind.”
“First of all, I have to say right now, out loud so everybody can hear it like I still pinch myself and say, “Wait, are they talking about me?” When they say like creative. You can tell and all that is to say is that I still, even though I’m in this and I’m a teacher in this, I am always working on my shit right alongside every other person.”
“Just because you have maybe accomplishments on a resume or you may think that someone is more accomplished or more ventured than you are, do not ever dismiss the power of the mind and trust that everyone is going through the same process that you might be avoiding in order to get to their goals and dreams. I just have to say that, as a caveat.”
“I mean honestly, I would say before a case, my process was this is a good idea, I have to do it, I have to get through it. I would feel stressed out. I would feel anxious. I would do it. I would probably not be getting a lot of good sleep.”
Now, I actually am grateful for all the ideas and all the creative flow that comes through me. This might sound a little woo to the audience, but I really do it from a heart centered space where I'll even like place my hands on my heart and kind of drop into a few minutes of just breathing. You could call it a meditation.
“I call it sometimes just a conscious choice, is I’ll drop in and just breathe and have my hands on my heart and ask my heart, not my mind, because my mind will always tell me to do more and to be more and that that’s how I’m going to feel like I’m enough and feel valuable is by doing.”
“My heart knows that simply by being and allowing myself to feel loved and to feel valued and to feel worthy, that from that place I can create with ease and joy and balance. I ask my heart, does this feel fun? Does this feel light? Does this feel good for me? Not maybe for everybody else, because my mind will always tell me to do it because everybody else needs it or everybody else will benefit from it.”
I actually, at some point, have to stop caring about that and say is this good for Kelsey? Does Kelsey want and need and desire and feel fulfilled and happy to do this?
“I think it’s also so important to remind people, because damn, I did not know this my entire like 20s and even my early 30s. I’m 36 now and I’m still learning it. Sometimes I’m like, “Okay, maybe at 40 I’m finally going to feel worthy.”
“I do think that there’s this essence of teaching and I know a lot of amazing teachers that teach this way, just like me, which is you, I, we, each of us has all of the answers that we need inside.”
“Like social media and the endless scrolling. The diving into YouTube and all of these things. I’ve gone down those black holes before. I love Instagram. I love all those platforms. It’s more about acknowledging and recognizing when you might be avoiding your own self and your own work, because you have all the answers inside, and seeking them and looking to others for inspiration is cool, but when you look at others to live their life, then right away you’ve actually disconnected from yourself.”
“You are unique. Each of us came in with a purpose that is only ours to fulfill.”
“Matt, you and I have had so many of these conversations, brother, where we can talk for like hours. What’s happening when you have those conversations, like even to those that are aspiring entrepreneurs or are entrepreneurs, I always tell people like, “Find like a mastermind tribe that you can sit with and you can just process and you can just kind of let your subconscious come up and start talking and start questioning and start observing and start these awarenesses, because sound has a vibration.”
The vibration of sound is actually going to start to attract and bring to you that which you're putting out.
Segment 3: (Length :10:00) – Dealing with failures; The false stories we tell ourselves; Being self-centered means putting yourself at center; Practicing worthiness; Watch the stories you tell yourself.
Kelsey’s finer points:
“I’ve had so many failures. My husband has had so many failures in his businesses. It’s not because I’m ashamed of them. The reason that you might not hear people talk about all their failures all the time is because it’s like, “Okay, that happened. That’s done. I’m grateful for it. I’ve learned some new things and new ways of operating. Now, I’m going to keep going.”
“It’s not that people don’t fail all the time, like left and right. If you’ve ever read any entrepreneurs books like Richard Branson, you would know how many failures happen. It’s usually a matter of people’s will or ego being terrified or judging themselves, before they even do fail. Judging themselves for the possibility of failure.”
“I watched my mind create all these judgements and all these false observations about like this perceived truth that, again, it wasn’t true at all. I watched how my mind was telling me all these stories.”
“Yeah, that is I believe that all day every day, because, let me ask you guys a question. When you look in the mirror, when you look at yourself, you might be getting ready or when you’re like out at a restaurant and you go to the bathroom and you look up. Do you have any idea what you say to yourself when you look up.”
“Like 20 years ago, people might have thought that that was awesome or a lot of people might have thought that that was like being conceited or self-centered or whatever. I believe if you think of the word self -centered a lot of people might think you’re so selfish, you’re so inside. I look at self-centered as such a gift and such a blessing. It means that you are centered within the self.”
“I have to say that to myself three times at least twice a day in a full length mirror, just see myself and tell myself and remind myself. I am always wrapped up in unworthiness. That has been a life changing practice for me.”
“.” Whatever the fuck is going on with your business or your life. That’s when we get to pause and say, “Wait, wait, wait. I have a choice right now. What am I feeding my mind? I’m grateful for this line. I’m grateful for traffic because I’m going to put on a song or an album that really makes me feel good. I’m just going to focus on breathing.” To change how your mind shows up every moment.”
“You’re going to attract, let’s just call a spade a spade, that saying, your vibe attracts your tribe. It’s true. If you’re somebody whose constantly looking at other’s and judging them for being late or for being flaky or for being so wrapped up in their business and de, de, de, de, dah. Or so pretty and like takes so much time to get ready for themselves.”
When your mind sets those stories up, you are creating that energy between you and your tribe. When you're allowed, there's that saying like we're all a mirror to each other. If you can spot it, you got it.
“If somebody pisses you off, you actually look at that person as your greatest teacher to say what is it about this person that’s pissing me off and where does that exist inside of me or where do I not have love and patience and compassion to myself to open up a bigger vortex?”
“Segment 4: (Length :03:00) – Hustler Thought of the Day:
Your mind will always believe everything you tell it. Feed it faith. Feed it truth. Feed it with love. – Kelsey J. Patel
Kelsey J. Patel – Entrepreneur, Leading Wellness Expert & Founder of Magik Vibes
Kelsey is not only a sought after spiritual empowerment coach, yoga teacher, reiki healer and meditation teacher, but also a multi-faceted entrepreneur and inspirational speaker.
She just launched a brand new business called Magik Vibes (seasonal spiritual subscription boxes).
Her work can be found across the globe and is endorsed by some of the hottest brands and names in Hollywood.
She is the resident reiki instructor for Soho House, a head teacher at The Den Meditation Studio in Los Angeles, a worldwide retreat facilitator and has been featured in dozens of print, online and social publications such as US Weekly, The New York Times, Reader’s Digest, Well and Good, MindBodyGreen, The Chalkboard Mag and more.